Honestly communicating whatever is on your heart and having your partner understand, accept, and show compassion toward you is a legitimate human need. However, most empaths can’t tell you everything that is on their heart and what is really bothering them because they tend to always feel out of sorts and may not know why. They carry much more than their own emotional and mental stuff. When an empath absorbs another person’s emotional energy into the cells of their body or the electromagnetic field surrounding the body, these energetic burdens can make us emotionally and physically sick. Some people don’t even know about being an empath much less what to do about it. Many couples rarely recognize the connection between the moodiness, bouts of depression or crying—even physical illness of the empathic partner—unless they start to think back and realize that these episodes tend to occur after being in a crowd or around someone who is negative or in need of healing.
To the non-empath partner, the empath seems emotionally weak, mentally unstable, or willy-nilly about what they want in life. What they really want is peace at all costs—most empaths hate confrontation—but they go about trying to create peace by taking on the burdens of others rather than by raising their own vibration and working with purer energies to transmute the suffering around them.
When someone an empath is close to is unkind, it’s natural for the empath to blame themselves. It’s also natural for them or their partner to try to fix the situation or calm the other person. Trying to talk to an empath about what’s wrong in the middle of an emotional episode is probably going to backfire. The empath is already emotionally overloaded and anything the partner does to try do may only add to the burden. It is best to have a plan of action for when your empathic partner is experiencing empathic stress. This is so simple you will be amazed how well it works.
When your empath partner is suffering with compassion fatigue, offer to smudge him or her with sage; send love and light to the partner; adjust your aura size, ground and center your own energy, and remind your partner to do the same.