I remember the line from Erich Segal's Love Story, "Love means never having to say you are sorry." As I spoke with Dr. Roy Martina on yesterday's podcast, we discussed the three levels of happiness:
competitive, conditional, and unconditional. When we reach the level of happiness that is not dependent upon circumstances and doesn't need the approval or attention of others, we have unconditional happiness.
We reach this level of joy, not by forgiving others, but by never perceiving that we have been wronged or attacked. When you never hold a grudge, you never need to forgive. When you refuse to see yourself as a victim (nor allow yourself to be treated as one), you cannot be attacked. God does not forgive, because He (She, It) does not condemn or judge. Without judgement and condemnation, there is nothing to forgive--ever!
Love means never having to say "I'm sorry." Love means never having anything to forgive because love never perceives itself as being attacked. If you never perceive attack, you will have no need to defend, retaliate, or feel sorry for yourself. You will recognize your own power and live at the level of unconditional happiness. This is what Jesus referred to as turning the other cheek.